Peter Pan and the Peter Pan syndrome

"Pan, who and what art thou?" he [Hook] cried huskily.
"I'm youth, I'm joy," Peter answered at a venture, "I'm a little bird that has broken out of the egg." - Peter Pan

First, of all; No. Peter Pan syndrome isn't a recognized disease in the medical world. But it is an interesting concept to consider.

I guess most of the people reading this would already be familiar with Peter Pan. The boy who lived in Neverland and has wonderful adventures with Wendy and the Lost boys. Some of us loved him when he was a kid, though I guess he won't stop being that to us - a kid. And though some of us would just like to be that - kids, most of us grew up and left our childhood days behind.

Peter Pan Syndrome is a term coined by Dr. Dan Kiley with his book "The Peter Pan syndrome: Men Who Have Never Grown Up". I think I've read it once in my library visits. And though it is not recognized as a psychological disorder, I think there are people who fit in this syndrome.

Characteristics:
- refusal/failure to accept mature responsibilities
- post adolescent development stage
- emotionally immature
- narcissism
- a history of failed relationships/ fear of commitments

Causes:
One probable cause would be a person rejecting the adult world because of fear of growing up. He or she has experienced or observed an adult event that makes them afraid that that is how they'll be as adults. Another theory is that it is due to over protective parents. As young children, the adult "realities" were hidden or masked so they have a false sense of security which immediately dissolves when their first adult problem sets in. They're used to their parents handling their responsibilities.

This makes us look at Peter Pen at a different light huh. :)

Though the syndrome makes us think of lazy-good-for-nothing bums who has no sense of responsibility, I believe that it is not necessarily their fault. These people are merely "victims" of the circumstances that surrounded their growth and development. I think with supportive friends and family, a person can grow up to be a mature, responsible and productive citizen of a community.

What do you think?

All information from the internet. :)

The Filipino Happiness

People have always talked about how a Filipino can smile even though tragic events are happening around them. Other countries also wonder about that. I don't have the exact answer but one of the things that I think contributes to it lies in the history of the Philippines. Being conquered by a lot of countries, the Filipinos have developed a sense of resiliency towards painful events. They have a deep sense of hope that things will turn out for the better. You can just imagine the horrible stuff those invaders did to our fellow men and yet the Filipinos still forgive them and even turned out to be one of the most hospitable people around.

Another factor is probably the fact that a majority of the Filipino population are Christians and being Christians, we know that a higher being does not ignore our suffering and we can turn to God in times of life's sufferings. I observed in other countries that they don't or maybe they can't really smile about it and yet I observe the local news and somehow... the people there are grinning ear to ear. People who have lost homes. People who have nothing and yet they can still smile. Maybe some may call us fools but during those times, what can you do? It's not like moping around would help.

I think that having a family centered orientation also contributes to this cheerful nature. When a Filipino is lonely, he/she knows that mother (or another relative) is only a phone call away or a shout away. No one can underestimate a Filipino's love for their families or even their fellow men. Even though they can be harsh sometimes (not the abuse kind mind you), it is probably because they think of your future.

History, Faith and Family. These contribute to the smiling Filipino. I'm truly proud to be pinoy.

Pinoy Mentality Part 2 (woooh!)

Hep! Hep! Hep! san ka pupunta? Tsk, tsk... alam mong matatamaan ka nanaman...Heehee... ok lang yan pare... It's another time for us mga Pilipinos nga mamulat sa katotohanan...

And yes, here I am to give you another dose of Pinoy Mentality, a list of behaviors and attitudes nating mga Pinoy na alarmingly (di pa kayo na-aalarm?) sumisira sa ating dignity as citizens of this country. Naku, kahit anong honor and glory ang ibigay ni Manny Pacquiao to the Philippines, ay di kayang i-justify ang mga pangit na ugali ng mga Pinoy na nakakahiya.

First of all, dapat nyo muna basahin ang unang post ... here oh > Pinoy Mentality Part 1

Tapos na? Sige go...

nandito na ang continuation!

4. Take advantage/ opportunist mentality

At sino namang hindi mahilig sa "free" o "libre" ? Naku, ang takaw natin jan. May event na invited tayo, parang boring, kasi seminar or lecture. However, if sinabing may "free snacks" or "overflowing coffee", pahuhuli pa ba? What could be the reason why most of us ay matakaw sa mga ganito? Dahil din naman namumulubi ang karamihan sa atin. Pero ang masama dito, marami ang gusto ng "libre" na lang lagi, ayaw ng magtrabaho. Masyadong nag rrely on sa mga relief goods, or gift givings, or mga charity. Eh karamihan ng mga tao ay actually malalakas pa ang mga pangatawan kaso di naman nagttrabaho. May pinag-aralan kaso hindi ginagamit ang mga kakayahan. Lahat na lang gusto instang makuha ang gusto, at pag may opportunity, take advantage kagad. Friends kayo kasi lagi ka niya nililibre, tapat ka sa kanya dahil dun. We want to be close to those na ma-pera.

In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’ (Acts 20: 35)

5. Colonial Mentality

Super love mo ba ang K-pop? or die hard NBA fan? nakakapagsalita ka na ba ng Japanese sa kanonood nga anime? Ayaw mo na bang kumain sa Jollibee kasi pambata naman yun? Na try mo na bang magsuot ng Filipiniana sa JS prom? pinagkakaisahan mo na ba ang kabaduyan ng mga jejemon? mas gusto mo bang panuorin ang Dora the Explorer o Sesame Street kaysa Batibot? Mas maganda ba tingnan ang white skin kaysa sa kayumanggi? Mas masarap bang pakinggan ang mga foreign music bands kaysa sa mga local bands natin? Memorize mo ba lahat ng Beatles songs pero di mo alam ang mga kanta ng Eraserheads?

...and many more questions :)

Why do you pass judgment on your brother? Or you, why do you despise your brother? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God. (Romans 14:10)

6. Lack of Discipline

Gustong lagi mauna, ayaw pumila. Sabing wag magtapon dito, ayan, wala naman nakatingin eh. Dapat naman iflush ang toilet pagkatapos gamitin at wag dumihan ang bowl, simpleng bagay di magawa. These are just some of the things that show that we Filipinos cannot follow simple rules. Simple pa nga lang yan eh di na magawa how much more the laws against crime and corruption. Cleanliness daw is next to godliness. But we can see, that our streets are dirty and messy, not to mention traffic. Philippines daw is a Christian nation. Madasalin yeah, perhaps, but disciplined? I doubt that (this is undeniable). We complain about poverty, but people choose to sugal or gamble instead of finding a job or finishing school. Over population daw is a growing problem, along with unwanted pregnancies and broken families. Do we still listen to good counsel? Or are parents themselves don't play the good example? Pero if we actually have fear of the Lord, bakit ba tayo matitigas ang ulo at refuse to be disciplined? God disciplines His children, and we wonder why our prayers are not answered. Why our country is still enslaved to corruption and poverty and crime.

One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much, and one who is dishonest in a very little is also dishonest in much. If then you have not been faithful in the unrighteous wealth, who will entrust to you the true riches? And if you have not been faithful in that which is another's, who will give you that which is your own? (Luke 16: 10-12)

Better is a poor man who walks in his integrity than a rich man who is crooked in his ways. (Proverbs 28:6)

And so!

I know there are other things and aspect we Filipinos cannot be proud of. But here is a start to think things over and pray.

Let's reflect on the words God speaks to us if we are truly His believers.

Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. (Colossions 3:14)

Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. On account of these the wrath of God is coming. In these you too once walked, when you were living in them. But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth. Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices ... (Colossian 3:5-10)

Go Filipinos! Let's fix our eyes back to Jesus. ^__^ There is still hope for us and we can conquer all these troubles.

Seek first God's kingdom where His will is done and His righteous path, then all these things will be given to you. (Matthew 6:33)

Pinoy Mentality Part 1

Isang araw, I read this article posted and shared sa Facebook. It's talking about mga katangian or qualities nating mga Pinoy na tiyak namang, tsk di kahanga-hanga, and yes, sad to say mga kaugaliang di nakakatulong sa pag unlad ng ating country.

Anu-ano nga bang mga behavior and characteristics na ito? Nabasa ko nuon sa Reader's Digest, di ko na matandaan kung anong taon at issue yon, pero i can remember in that article na mga Pinoy talaga, tsk tsk, talaga namang matigas ang ulo, and refuses na matuto.

Ikaw? Wag mo nang ideny na in one way or another natamaan ka din sa mga bad behaviors and mentality na ito.

So why am I speaking in halong English and Filipino? Dahil ang post ko na ito ay para sa mga Pinoy and Pinay out there, na dapat ng mamulat sa katotohanang tayong mga Pinoy ay dapat ng matauhan. ^_^

1. Crab Mentality

Ayaw talaga nating magpa-iwan. And when we see our neighbor na mas bongga speakers nila, may karaoke, malaki ang bakod, maraming manok, etc. tayo naman di nagpapahuli. Minsan pa nga, (or sad to say kadalasan), we take advantage and even sinisiraan yung mga taong kinaiinggitan natin. Maraming mga Pinoy ang hindi marunong makuntento kung ano meron sa kanila. INGGIT... yan ang salita. Di sila nagiging masaya pag mas umaangat sa kanila ang ibang tao. They think na dapat sila lang ang number one, and dapat sila ang mas nakakalamang. Competition is not all bad. Pero pag naninira na ng ibang tao, pero mas umangat ang katayuan mo, ay sadyang napaka greedy na. Dito pumapasok ang TSISMIS at BACKSTABBING. At anong masasabi nila, yung mga taong naninira? Proud pa sila, at naisahan nila yung mga taong kakumpetensya nila.

He said to them, 'Beware, and be on your guard against every form of greed; for not even when one has an abundance does his life consist of his possessions' (Luke 12:15)

2. Mañana Habit

Pinoy Time... isa lang ito sa nagpapakita that we Pinoys are procrastinators. At di lang yun..Cramming, mahilig sa last minute, at post-poning... sa projects, pagbayad nga taxes, pag-attend ng mga meeting. Kung kelan malapit na ang deadline, that's the time pa na magmamadali, ayun at hindi naka pagsubmit ng quality work. Yung ibang tao naman, proud pa na nagccramming sila. Tapos, mahilig sa delay, extend ng five minutes before bumangon sa kama...nakaka ilang five minutes ka na. And when you realize mallate ka na, ayun at nagkakandarapa. Akala nating napaka cool na natin dahil mahilig tayo sa mabilisan, pero mali ito. Talagang sadyang procrastinators tayo.

The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul of the diligent is richly supplied. (Proverbs 13:14)

3. Ningas Cogon attitude

This attitude means if we start out in something, like a new endeavor, mabilis sumiklab ngunit mabilis din namang namamatay. Just like the cogon. I am sure we experienced this. Magaling lang tayo sa una, all fired up. Pero iilan lang talaga ang nanatiling faithful sa trabaho na nagmmaintain. Its started all fiery, pero easily die down. Nag-apply ka sa isang curso, super excited ka, dedicated at tapat sa paggawa ng school work, pero pagkalipas ng isang taon, parang naddie down yung motivation mo. At hayan na nagsisimula ang katamaran. Oh etong isa pa...madalas nating nakikita toh sa mga politicians. Tuwing elections napaka siklab nila, ang daming proyekto, magaganda at promising na plataporma. Oh ano na ngayon? Meh nangyayari ba sa mga plano nila, now that they have been elected and currently in their desired position? Hahaha, oh eto, sa lovelife. Magaling lang sa simula, super sweet and romantic, ngunit pag lipas ng mga challenges, dying out na. Kokonti nlang talaga ang nagiging faithful sa isa't isa. FAITHFULNESS sa trabaho at sa salita, kelangan nating mga Pinoy. Finish what you started.

Stay dressed for action and keep your lamps burning. (Luke 12:35)

Ayan mga ladies and gentlemen. ^_^ wag na tayong magmalinis pa. We know that we are guilty of these attributes. Tatlo lang yan as of now and will be posting more soon. Ngayon, let's reflect on these three muna. Are you willing to change? Are you willing to spread the change?

O baka mamaya nlang? Bahala na yung iba, pakialam ko ba sakanila...

Nasa sa iyo na yan.

Pray. ^_^ sapagkat sabi sa Bible

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13)

Til next time guys!

"The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man is he who listens to counsel" (Proverbs 12:15)

Are you following the Jante Law?

I was reading the Zahir by Paulo Coelho when I read a paragraph about the Law of Jante. I became curious about it and decided to read more about it.

What is the Jante Law: is a pattern of group behaviour towards individuals within Scandinavian communities, which negatively portrays and criticizes success and achievement as unworthy and inappropriate. It is an unwritten rule. It sounds similar to the "Crab mentality" which brings down anyone who is going up.

The ten rules state:
   1. Don't think you're anything special.
   2. Don't think you're as much as us.
   3. Don't think you're wiser than us.
   4. Don't convince yourself that you're better than us.
   5. Don't think you know more than us.
   6. Don't think you are more than us.
   7. Don't think you are good at anything.
   8. Don't laugh at us.
   9. Don't think anyone cares about you.
  10. Don't think you can teach us anything.

The law resents those who are different, who have achieved much, who are knowledgeable and loved. As we pass through life, we encounter people who get the better grades, the better car, the better boyfriend or the better girlfriend. Its a negative trait really which not only brings the other person down, it brings you down too. Making you feel inadequate and lacking. True, I did think that way sometimes but thankfully, I made my own "law" to counter all this.

"Envy and greed will never make you happy"

That's because I think that's where all the negativity mainly stems from; Envy and greed. It makes you feel unwanted and lacking and average. I am not here though to patronize but suggest that whenever we catch ourselves thinking this way, stop! just stop and change your mind set.

Don't allow yourself to follow the Jante Law.

Phobias Make This World a Funny Place To Be

Lately, I have noticed that people, like friends of mine, were discussing about things that scare them, thing's they are afraid of. Of course, my friends are still sane-- their fears still rational. However, a certain status comment on the wall of a friend of mine in facebook stated this.

"Anatidaephobia: The fear that somewhere, somehow, a duck is watching you."

What???!
hahaha...so this inspired me to do some search for the list of phobias that i find particulary interesting...never heard before and just plainly hilarious (and ridiculous)...
But before that, let's give some credit to what that word means.

A phobia (from the Greek: φόβος,phóbos, meaning "fear" or "morbid fear")

is an irrational, intense and persistent fear of certain situations, activities, things, animals, or people. The main symptom of this disorder is the excessive and unreasonable desire to avoid the feared stimulus. When the fear is beyond one's control, and if the fear is interfering with daily life, then a diagnosis under one of the anxiety disorders can be made.


Agateophobia- Fear of insanity.

~ehh? and you think you don't have it?

Angrophobia - Fear of anger or of becoming angry.

~no anger management problem needed

Anthrophobia or Anthophobia- Fear of flowers.

~NO way...they're too adorable!!!

Anuptaphobia- Fear of staying single.

~haha! some people have this fear...haha

Arachibutyrophobia- Fear of peanut butter sticking to the roof of the mouth.

~wut??!?! hahaha

Autodysomophobia- Fear of one that has a vile odor.

~so please don't get too near me..haha...just kidding

Automatonophobia- Fear of ventriloquist's dummies, animatronic creatures, wax statues - anything that falsly represents a sentient being.

~haha...i kinda relate a bit when i was younger

Bogyphobia- Fear of bogeys or the bogeyman.

~there's no such thing as.....

Bromidrosiphobia or Bromidrophobia- Fear of body smells.

~hahahahaha!!!

Cacophobia- Fear of ugliness.

~my face has a natural fear of it

Caligynephobia- Fear of beautiful women.

~means you and I won't get along haha

Chrometophobia or Chrematophobia- Fear of money.

~so give em to me instead

Chromophobia or Chromatophobia- Fear of colors

~awwww! what a boring world you have!

Cleithrophobia or Cleisiophobia- Fear of being locked in an enclosed place

~it's not Claustrophobia guys

Coitophobia- Fear of coitus.

~I am sure I don't have this one :P

Coulrophobia- Fear of clowns.

~Oh yeah...I have this one

Consecotaleophobia- Fear of chopsticks

~weh?! is still there such thing?

Cyberphobia- Fear of computers or working on a computer

~there's another term for this one...i kinda forgot what that was

Defecaloesiophobia- Fear of painful bowels movements.

~haha...I wanna meet people who really might have this phobia

Dementophobia- Fear of insanity.

~hahaha!!! this one's crazy (fear of oneself hahaha)

Didaskaleinophobia- Fear of going to school.

~haha...excuses for being absent

Dikephobia- Fear of justice.

~most evil person? haha

Dishabiliophobia- Fear of undressing in front of someone.
~really? gladly...i dont have this one

Doxophobia- Fear of expressing opinions or of receiving praise.

~ means..don't talk to me

Ecclesiophobia- Fear of church.

~wut? it's the happiest place to be...with the family

Ecophobia- Fear of home.

~there's no place like home...

Eleutherophobia- Fear of freedom.

~rather be a slave

Ephebiphobia- Fear of teenagers.

~teenagers scare the living sh*t out of me

Epistaxiophobia- Fear of nosebleeds.

~haha...i could scare this person then

Epistemophobia- Fear of knowledge.

~dumbest person of all...profound

Eremophobia- Fear of being oneself or of loneliness.

~"don't leave me"

Ereuthrophobia- Fear of blushing.

~ hahaha! i remembered when I was a kid..I've got a feeling somthing similar to this

Ergophobia- Fear of work.

~excuses of the lazy kind

Erotophobia- Fear of sexual love or sexual questions.

~noh???

Euphobia- Fear of hearing good news.

~the saddest person in the world...damned

Eurotophobia- Fear of female genitalia.

~really??? I wonder how they these kind of phobia develops

Erythrophobia or Erytophobia or Ereuthophobia- 1) Fear of redlights. 2) Blushing. 3) Red.

~NOOO!!! that's so like on of my fave color!

Graphophobia- Fear of writing or handwriting.

~excuses of the iliterate

Gymnophobia- Fear of nudity.

~sure???

Gynephobia or Gynophobia- Fear of women.
~guys should have this...just kidding hahaha

Hellenologophobia- Fear of Greek terms or complex scientific terminology.

~hahaha! when you're studying taxonomy you might get this ahaha

Hippopotomonstrosesquipedaliophobia- Fear of long words.

~NO WAY

Ithyphallophobia- Fear of seeing, thinking about or having an erect penis.

~who thinks of this kind of phobias???!

Novercaphobia- Fear of your step-mother.

~Cinderella?

Omphalophobia- Fear of belly buttons.

~ Kyle XY is your bestfriend

Papaphobia- Fear of the Pope.

~the term of the phobia just sounds funny

Paraskavedekatriaphobia- Fear of Friday the 13th.

~again..the term of the phobia is interesting

Philophobia- Fear of falling in love or being in love.

~NOOOOOO......excuses for losers!

Phobophobia- Fear of phobias.

~hahaha! how ironic

Proctophobia- Fear of rectums.

~wut?!

Venustraphobia- Fear of beautiful women.

~WHAT?! you're afraid of me? gosh...

Thanks for reading guys...who you won't get Maddyphobia^_^(

that's so lame maddy...really now)